She Said "I Feel Distant." 30 Days Later, Everything Changed.

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Most Men Get Married On Purpose...
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I thought I was a good husband. I tried. I cared. But 6 months into consciously trying to improve, my wife said words that gutted me:

"I feel distant and disconnected from you."

I had failed. Despite my best intentions, I was losing the woman I loved.

Something had to change. Not just what I was doing, but HOW I was approaching our entire marriage.

Conrad and Jennifer Deas
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30 Days Later, Our Marriage Was Better Than We Knew It Could Be

Not because I'm special. Because I found a system that works.

Husband On Purpose isn't about trying harder. It's about being intentional with specific actions that actually move the needle.

This book—and the system behind it—has helped thousands of men transform their marriages by transforming themselves first.

Your Free 5-Day Transformation

Each day takes just 5 minutes. Each email gives you one actionable step to improve your marriage.

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Decision & Vision

Get clear on what it means to be intentional in your marriage.

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First Domino

Take one small step that creates momentum for change.

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Her Dialect

Learn to connect with your wife in her unique love language.

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DISARM B.S.

Break the patterns and behaviors that hold you back.

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Set the stage for a marriage that grows stronger every day.

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Husband On Purpose: Your 30-Day Action Plan

The complete system for becoming the husband you're capable of being.

  • The 4 Powerful Questions That Show You EXACTLY What to Focus On
  • The 6-Step DISARM Sequence to Eliminate B.S. Mediocrity from Your Marriage
  • The 60-Second Technique That Keeps Good Days Good and Bad Days from Getting Worse
  • How to Appear to Read Your Wife's Mind and Make Her Fall In Love With You Again
  • The 3 Synergistic Ingredients (AMA) to Maintain the Upward Spiral
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What Husbands Are Saying

Real results from real husbands who took action.

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"I decided to find ways to be a better husband and found this book and the first few pages alone blew me away. True eye opener to what I needed to hear."

— David M.
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"I've always secretly prided myself on being a good husband. Husband On Purpose revealed an embarrassing amount of B.S. behavior on my part. The road hasn't been easy, but the results have been more than worth the effort."

— Mark T.
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"A must read for every man that wants his wife to feel loved. Even if you think you know, you owe it to your wife to read this book."

— Jason R.
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"This book was very informative and gave great tips to improve my marriage and make me a Husband on Purpose. Highly Recommend"

— Chris P.
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"So down to earth and easy to understand. True eye opener to what I needed to hear so far."

— Ryan K.
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"Excellent book at any stage of marriage, even engagement; set the tone and carry it through to marriage."

— Pastor David C. Burr
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Expert Endorsements

"Conrad has given us a step-by-step blueprint that can quickly transform your marriage by transforming who you're being. This book tells you exactly what you need to do in order to become the husband you're capable of being."

Hal Elrod
Author of The Miracle Equation & The Miracle Morning

"Conrad's content is meaty! It's not often that a man will go to this depth to show his wife love. The fact that he saw a breakthrough in 30 days that he didn't see in 6 months by being more purposeful is amazing."

Kevin Bullard
President of Marriage Works!, Author of The Blessed Marriage

"Conrad shows us the way to create a better marriage is to create a better self. By wearing his heart on his sleeve, Conrad gives us actionable steps on how to be a better man. YOU are the catalyst to change."

Lance Salazar
Author of The Miracle Morning for Couples

Frequently Asked Questions

Yes! The 5-day email crash course is completely free. No credit card required. It's designed to give you a taste of the Husband On Purpose system and show you what's possible when you're intentional about your marriage.
I thought the same thing for 6 months. I "knew" what to do, but knowing and consistently doing are different. Plus, there's power in actually asking your wife directly instead of guessing. One husband told me "I already know that" and missed the point entirely. The real question isn't "Do I know it?" but "Am I doing it consistently?"
That's the beauty of this system. Each daily email takes 5 minutes to read and apply. The book recommends just 15 minutes a day—that's 1% of your day. Does your marriage deserve at least 1% of your time? The rest of your day is still yours.
That's exactly where I was. I thought I was doing pretty well too. But "fine" isn't the goal—an extraordinary marriage is. This isn't about fixing what's broken; it's about making good great. Remember: your wife deserves better than "fine," and so do you.
This book was born from my lowest point. When my wife said "I feel distant and disconnected from you," I felt gutted. I thought we might not make it. 30 days later, we were better than ever. If your marriage is on the verge of divorce, I recommend seeking professional counseling while applying these principles. If you're willing to do the work, the system works.
The most powerful thing about Husband On Purpose is that it starts with YOU. You can't control how she responds, but you can control who you're being. The book teaches a "100/0 mindset"—giving your all regardless of what she's giving. When you consistently show up differently, the dynamic shifts. Many wives start reciprocating once they see genuine, sustained change.
That's pride. Be humble. I felt the same way at first, but asking the "Challenge Question" (What makes you ABSOLUTELY feel loved?) was the turning point in my marriage. There's immense value in the asking itself—it shows your wife you actually want to know. Stop guessing. Start knowing.
You will. I did. The difference is you'll overcome them quicker than ever before. Husband On Purpose isn't about eliminating all problems—it's about working through them together. A rocket ship is off course 90% of the time but reaches its destination through constant small adjustments. You'll make adjustments too.
You're probably thinking of John's 1-star review where he wrote: "I fear that this treatise was so poorly organized that its content will come off as cliche and forgettable, when in reality, the advice is worth taking." Even the critical review acknowledged the advice works. The book is conversational—like emails between friends—not a textbook. Focus on the principles, not the packaging.
While I'm a man of faith and that's part of my story, the principles in Husband On Purpose are universal. They work regardless of your spiritual beliefs. The practical strategies (asking questions, intentional action, accountability) are based on human psychology and relationship dynamics, not doctrine.
You'll have the option to continue with the full 12-month email coaching program (less than $10/week) that provides ongoing accountability and guidance. But there's no pressure—the 5-day course alone can create meaningful change. Many men use it as a "test drive" before committing to the full program.
Absolutely! The book is available on Amazon for $4.99 (Kindle) or $16.95 (paperback). You can read a free sample on Amazon right now. Many men start with the book and then join the email program for ongoing support and accountability.
Conrad and Jennifer Deas

Conrad Deas

Husband | Father | Friend | Lover of God & People

I'm a former United States Air Force N.C.O., turned marketing & sales professional, now author and coach.

My mission is simple: Help men Live Everyday On Purpose.

Husband On Purpose wasn't the book I planned to write first. But when my marriage hit a low point, I realized I needed a system—not just for me, but for every man who's tired of drifting and ready to lead with intention.

Today, I'm blessed to say my marriage is better than I ever imagined possible. And through this book and coaching program, I get to help thousands of other husbands create the same transformation.

Speaking Engagements

I share the Husband On Purpose message at conferences, men's groups, churches, and corporate events. My availability is limited as I'm a husband and dad first, but I'm selective about opportunities where I can make the greatest impact.

For speaking inquiries, contact me at Conrad@HumbleCourage.com

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