Become a better man and build a better marriage—by moving from accidental autopilot to intentional connection.
“Conrad Deas has given us the step-by-step blueprint that can quickly transform your marriage by transforming who you’re being.”
— Hal Elrod, author of The Miracle MorningYou didn’t learn to walk by accident.
You didn’t build your career by accident.
You didn’t convince your wife to marry you by accident.
Every meaningful accomplishment in your life happened because—at some point—you decided to be intentional.
And yet… somewhere between “I do” and real life… a lot of men drift into marriage on autopilot.
Not because they don’t care. Not because they’re lazy. Not because they’re bad men.
But because no one ever showed them how to be a husband on purpose.
At some point, most men hear a sentence they never forget:
“I don’t feel connected to you.”
“I feel distant from you.”
It doesn’t always come during a fight. Sometimes it shows up quietly—almost casually.
And when it does, you realize something uncomfortable:
Trying harder isn’t the same as being intentional.
“Communication… willingness to change… sound and realistic… puts the ball in your court.”
— Reader reviewMost men don’t need more marriage advice, more talking about feelings, or more blame.
What you need is clarity:
That’s exactly why Husband On Purpose exists.
What if the problem is this:
You’ve been guessing.
Guessing what she needs. Guessing what to fix first. Guessing whether you’re doing enough.
Guessing is exhausting. And it’s completely unnecessary.
This is not a motivational book. It’s not theory. And it’s definitely not therapy.
It’s a 30-day action plan designed to help you:
Not someday. Starting now.
Mediocrity is B.S. for your marriage.
(B.S. = Below Standards.)
If you want a strong marriage, you need standards. And standards require action—not intention.
Husband On Purpose is built around two core components:
1) The 30-Day Challenge
Every day, you intentionally do one specific thing that helps your wife feel loved the way she experiences love.
2) The D.I.S.A.R.M. Mindset
The internal framework that makes the change stick—so you don’t drift back after “a good week.”
Instead of guessing, you’ll learn to ask better questions—because better questions create better outcomes.
The Focusing Question:
“What’s the ONE thing I can do in my marriage such that by doing it, everything else becomes easier or unnecessary?”
The Challenge Question:
“I absolutely know my husband loves me when…”
The Feedback Question:
A simple way to get real feedback and course-correct early—before small issues become big ones.
“Great read and advice… easy to understand… how to apply yourself positively to your marriage.”
— Reader reviewYour marriage can’t be 50/50 if your effort depends on hers.
Husband On Purpose teaches the 100/0 mindset: you give 100% because you’re committed to the man you’re becoming.
Every marriage has a story. The question is: what role are you playing?
Being a hero isn’t one dramatic gesture. It’s small, purposeful actions—done daily.
If you want a marriage you’re proud of, you don’t need more theory.
You need a plan you can actually follow.
It all starts with you.